Coffee Cup of Destiny

(Interview by Nic Skuja for International Psychics Directory)

I recently had the wonderful opportunity to catch up with the very charming Deniz Batuk, the 2016 IPA Psychic People’s Choice Award recipient. Deniz is a truly global psychic and has recently returned from engagements in Mexico and the United States of America where he presented at this year’s Burning Man Festival in Nevada.

Deniz is a psychic medium based in Sydney. His business, coffeecupreadingsonline.com, offers a variety of services for people all over the world. Deniz offers face-to-face psychic medium and coffee cup readings from his premises in Newtown. He does phone readings, online readings via Skype and email, face and photo readings, as well as functions and events. Deniz has also made guest appearances on a number of TV and radio shows.

Deniz started his career in Turkey and has over twenty-three years of industry experience. He specialises in Turkish coffee cup reading (tasseography) and conducts water reading (hydromancy).

We had a great chat. I had a few questions about coffee reading, his time at Burning Man and what’s in store for him  in 2018:

What is coffee reading?

It is like an alphabet; talking to me. Next time you drink your coffee in a white cup look inside after finishing it. You will notice coffee residue building shapes. Particularly if it is black Turkish style coffee. Turkish coffee cup reading is an ancient way of divination by using the shapes left by the coffee grounds in your cup. It is huge in Turkey, Greece, the Balkans including Serbia, Croatia and the whole former Yugoslavia, the Middle East, Russia and the Caucasian states like Armenia, Azerbaijan, Georgia etc.

The aim in readings is not just talking about one-way-fate, but how you can improve your chances and find the best option in life.  I lay out all good and bad options. The choice is yours in the end.

How did you get started?

I started when I was a child… The intuition was always there. I used to give guidance to my parents, grandparents, school friends on finance, love relationships, business deals, friendships. I thought everyone had the same ability… Why could not they see that they were about to make a mistake? As a kid it was annoying to watch people taking wrong paths. I used to guide people, this is how it grew. I began Turkish coffee cup readings in my high school years in Istanbul. It is part of my culture. I did my first coffee reading for my best friend and through word-of-mouth, it snowballed. 

Do you have a special process you follow?

I practice shamanism, so first I empathise with my client through a drum and bell sounds and then I close my eyes to focus. Sometimes I get a vision, then I open the coffee cup and talk, talk, talk. I then answer questions about this world and beyond. Usually, the night before, I have strange dreams which I interpret for the first client of the next morning. The relevance is always there… For example, the other night I dreamt about a sad gentleman; I could see his face. The next morning my customer showed me her husband’s photo; it was him.

Are there any rules?

Yes, and I can be picky. Look, the client has every right to be choosy as does the psychic. I do not accept clients if they are emotionally extremely sensitive. If I believe my client will not be able to cope with what I am going to say, I would rather cancel the session. The person must be ready, willing and open-minded; otherwise, there is no point. I do prefer customers who are informed about my services beforehand, rather than someone who wishes to have a reading on impulse. I do not work that way. It is not advised for people younger than eighteen, or for clients who’ve had alcoholic drinks just beforehand as I need their full attention.

What kind of symbols are you looking for when reading?

Anything really. A initials of a name, a complete name, career paths, exact locations, cities, diseases, deceased people and their attributes. Shapes can come as a heart, number, tree, letter, dog, bird, house, cloud, sun, moon or mountain – nature gives so many choices.

How is coffee reading different?

The main difference is you taste your coffee from a cup you touch. By your sense of taste and touch you become part of it; your energy connects. Still, in the end, it is up to the psychic medium how to interpret it. Tarot, coffee, crystal – all form of readings – give accurate results if you can build a connection with your psychic medium.

What do you love about what you do?

Everything. As a psychic I believe in constant improvement and betterment in every single detail. Beyond my readings, I sample the best coffee from various regions, I collect antique coffee cups to make the experience something memorable. At the age of forty-five I still get excited. I feel like I’m twenty when I am about the give readings. Works better than botox for me!

What are some of your favourite coffee reading memories?

Out of thousands of readings I can’t possibly pick favourites. When one of my clients say hello on the street or when I receive an email from an overseas client out of the blue, I feel happy.

Did you ever dream it would take you around the world?

No, not at all. It all happened naturally.

Do you have a favourite destination where work and your love of travel meet?

I love Istanbul, Sydney, London, LA, Berlin and Paris. So far, my line of work has taken me from Istanbul to Europe, America and finally to Australia. Thanks to technology and Skype, I have clients from over thirty countries. With overseas clients, language is the key: still not everyone speaks English. As well as Turkish and English I can converse in German, and these days I am working on my Greek and French to be able to reach more people. I love languages and other cultures, so everywhere has something to offer.

How was the Burning Man?

This is where people stay for a week in the desert in Nevada. This year (In 2017) there were seventy thousands participants from all around the world. CEO’s, students, backpackers, businessmen, artists, young and old.

What took you to Burning Man?

We went as a group of four people. When I was there, I realised many people go to grieve after losing someone or a break-up and to heal and to burn their sorrow. I gifted my readings there and enjoyed this experience immensely.

What were your highlights?

Sitting in the main camp in the morning I gave readings one after another. I met a young American couple. After their reading the man burst into tears. He had thought he was a bad person because of the violence occurring in Afghanistan during his time there as a soldier. I had helped him overcome his guilt. Another man was suffering in his marriage because his mother-in-law had moved into his home causing a big rift. I explained his options, and he was grateful to hear there was hope to heal his union with his beloved wife. One day, a glamorous, tall transgender lady came to me. She was also Turkish, we talked in my mother tongue – far far away from Turkey. She was a beautiful soul. I remember giving advice about how she could locate the right person for her.

Do you see a return to Burning Man in the near future?

Certainly. Where I sat was next to the main stage and organisers noticed that something was going on there. People were waiting in a queue, talking. They invited me to the stage, gave me a microphone and asked me to give readings to the crowd. It was incredible to talk and try to help people from every corner of the planet. The organisers took my contact details and asked if I would go back next year.

How was your trip to Mexico and your experience visiting the temples and sacred sites?

I feel enlightened about the Mayan culture; I was curious about the Chichen Itza and Tulum pyramids. I learnt a lot about how the locals created their civilisations and lived their faiths. It was fascinating. To me the most sacred place and temple is our inner world. When I talk to my clients I get an insight about their lives which is more precious than any physical journey in this world.

In Mexico, my personal highlight was Mother-Nature herself; in Tulum, observing giant Caretta caretta (loggerhead) turtles coming to the beach to lay their eggs. It was moving to see these gentle giants following the moonlight and surviving all adversities to give life. All mothers, either human or animal are incredibly precious!

Where are you off to next?

Egypt, Spain, Portugal and Turkey.

What’s in the cup for you in 2018?

My vlog or a ‘video book’ I call it. Many come to me with issues related to their private lives. Over the years I have done studies in marriage and relationship counselling, shamanism, spiritual development, now my glass is full and it is time to share. This is not psychic medium reading, it just outlines the rules of a successful marriage & union. Soon, I will launch this project on my website and social media.

 

How to Get the Most Out of a Reading

IMG_0213Who gets the most from a psychic reading? I would argue it is an optimist, someone who is relaxed, keeps hope and is prepared to get in and feel better.

My coffee cup and I are mere tools to guide you through the millions of available paths.  I can direct you, but it is your choice to take my advice.  I believe in my client’s intuition and insight. In most cases, I believe you already know the possible solutions to your problems, but hearing answers from someone else validates your inner feelings and gives you perspective.

Although my speciality is traditional coffee cup readings, I use many techniques to help my clients such as reading objects, eyes and hands or connecting with spirits. Being able to see the past clearly can be more useful than looking into the future because sometimes we need to look back at critical junctures and reflect. In all cases, I aim to give my clients specific information they can relate to. For example, if I am connecting with a relative in spirit, messages bypass my conscious mind and strange statements slip out of my mouth. It is most satisfactory when a client smiles and acknowledges, ‘Oh yeah, he would have said that!’ To get the most from a reading, look for specifics. Ask questions to get more detail if you are unclear about something. Be open to seeing your journey from an outsider’s viewpoint and tackle your future with optimism and hope. In the end,  regardless of what a psychic or anyone else says, your destiny in in your hands!

Reading Eyes & Hands: My specialty is to read eyes and the true meaning and thought in pupils, I call this process as ‘peeling the onion off layer by layer’. I read the photo of hands to understand the personality and behavioural patterns.

Reading Objects: As a clairsentient I might be able to guide about a person’s fate, whereabouts, current or past feelings. This item might be any personal object such as a t-shirt or a ring, even a piece of hair. If there is nothing else and old or new photograph can be a good start point.

Spirits of Relatives: Some of the people I do read are spirits, loved ones who already crossed. This stage of the mediumship activates my channelling while giving client the most important messages.

Details of Physical Body: Describing the persons’ outlook is crucial so you can relate to whom I am talking about.

Strange Words – Sentences: Like names, syllables in any language, or a complete sentence from a spiritual domain are very useful. Location names are a good example.

Shapes or Numbers,:
Anything in the form of a shape or a number, they all have a meaning.

Hectic is the right word to describe the last twelve months! Thanks to your continuing trust, I have been awarded the Psychic People’s Choice Award with votes coming from places I have never been – except via Skype or phone sessions-  making 2016 an incredibly valuable experience for me and my cat assistant Shelby. Thank you!

16406809_1350662704992888_8571154752537690745_n*The original version of this article has been published in the 2017 International Psychics Directory.

 

 

 

Motivate Yourself to Change

psychic-deniz-tattoo-1I used to be against tattoo or any symbol on the body but I have a better view now. About a month ago I got my arm permanently inked. My middle name is Suleyman or Solomon, a name a share with my grandfather and also the King Solomon whose gift was to talk to animals. Another connection was the Suleymaniye Mosque of Istanbul, a magnificent yet humble architecture and design of its own. One day looking at the dome decorations I saw the patterns of my future tattoo. Why not? We all change, so are our take on life.

In order to change though first we need something to inspire us, but what? How to motivate yourself? First, you can try by thinking about what you want to do. If you want to work, then so be it. If you want to study, then it is your choice. No matter what the choice you take about what you want, it has to be a good thing based on your values.

The second step you can do after you have made the choice about what you want to do is to measure how hard it is for you to perform the tasks that will come in the path you have chosen. It is true that when there is a will there will be a way. However, there is also a limit to everything, including your capabilities. So, if you think that the tasks on your path will be very hard for you to overcome, then it will be okay for you to give up the path or switch side.

The third step you can do about how to motivate yourself is to think about for whom you do and step in the path you have chosen. In this case, the most common choice is for the ones who love the most, such as your parents, your siblings, your lover or yourself.

The fourth or the last step on how to motivate yourself is to think about why you do this. In answering the “why” question I bet you will find your true self and your true motivation.

 

Defeating the Ego & Finding Who You Really Are

egoWe humans are social creatures. In addition to getting the right course, we also have an obligation. Often, we feel our rights are ignored or feel that our arguments are the most correct. If so, then you should need to fix that act because it could be that you are having a crisis of personality in you. Ego is a picture of the personality or the concept of reality and desire within. When the ego is directly proportional to the reality, of course it is considered as a natural thing. However, the real case is if the ego is so dominant and so destructive to the general agreement on the concept of truth. If the ego is left unchecked, a person who could not beat his ego and has a tendency to be apathetic and arrogant, so that it will affect his social life or, in other words, that person will withdraw from social life.

A logical consequence when you are strong enough in defeating the ego in yourself is being ostracized by the community. Of course, it is something that does not want to be experienced by anyone. Therefore, it is good to begin to fix it by getting to know your identity. Someone will be able to get to know himself better than anyone, so he will understand what is needed and what is not. Thus, in practice he will be able to refrain from doing things that are not necessary. So, what you can do to avoid conflicts that can occur with the people around you is by defeating the ego in yourself. However, note that the ego is not easy to beat. First of all, one must be able to know his position in the society or in the surrounding environment. When you know that you are only a small part of the community, then you will be able to begin to accept the existence of others and lower your ego.

Secondly, you should be able to know who you are. This may sound easy, but in reality it is very difficult. Most people feel that they already know who they are, but in fact they only know the outside of themselves or arguably only their physical bodies. This is quite natural because the ones can know us are only ourselves. However, it turns out that the understanding is not accompanied by a determination in finding who we really are. To know who you are, then you can try to explore a wide range of understandings about human creation. If you already find and understand who you are, then you will be much closer to defeating the ego in yourself completely. If it had been up to that point, it will not be difficult for you to be able to socialize in any society. By doing so, a good social life that is coveted by all people can be realized. That is the eternal benefit of being able to defeat your ego.

The Power of Smiling

Coffee-SmileSmile is a body language which is interpreted as an expression of happiness. Smiling is very easy to do, but often because of busy awork and endless routines, it makes us forget the joy we can feel from this activity. We do not realize how great the power of a smile is. In fact, even with the diversity of language, culture, ethnicity, and religion around the world, smiling still means the same. There are so many good effects that we can feel when we often smile because a smile will greatly affect our lives, whether they are in psychology, health, and social life.

Unwittingly, with a smile we will be happier even if our body conditions are not good though. That’s because when we smile, our brain releases a hormone called endorphins. This hormone will make someone feel calm and happy. This hormone gives morphine-like effects. In fact, the effect is 200 times greater than morphine. Unconsciously, the power of smiling gives great benefits to our bodies. Someone who often smiles has an immune system that is better than those who rarely smile. Smiles also keep us from excessive stress. Medically, smile is also able to control our blood pressure. By emphasizing on a smile, we will be able to reduce the risk of high blood pressure.

From centuries ago, the power of smiling has been known as a natural youthful drug. To smile, we need only thirteen facial muscles. The facial muscles will lift your face to look younger. In addition to providing benefits for your own self, the power of the smile may also provide benefits for others. When we smile and others also smile, then it implies that we have to transmit the benefits of a smile to the others. The amount of the force from a smile can surely be felt when we meet with new people or when we are during an interview. Smiling will bring a positive aura, give you confidence, and give a good and friendly impression. Obviously, it would be a plus for those of you who will be applying for a job. For women, a smile is very important, in addition to improving self-confidence, a smile will make them look more beautiful.

The power of smiling can be very helpful when we use it at the right time. Smiling facilitates us to interact with each person and also a mainstay for breaking the ice. Smile is also a form of appreciation of someone to another person. In fact, some jobs require every employee to always smile, such as customer service, bank security, or a tradesman. Smiling is also believed to bring fortune. Of course it is very reasonable. As a prospective buyer, we would choose a salesgirl who likes to smile than the one who doesn’t like to smile. With all the benefits of smiling, of course it would not hurt if we multiply our smiles. No matter how hard the trials of life, we have to keep smiling because a smile is a source of strength to face every problem of life.

How To Be A Good Listener

become a good listener

Listening is not necessarily a quality, as it is a virtue. Not many people know that listening can solve a lot of issues, and can act as a treatment for the many situations in which we are upset, stressed or disappointed. In many cases, we don’t look for solutions or answers to our problems, but more a person to whom we can tell about them, who is willing enough to listen to us. So yes, just listening, being a good listener, can mean a lot, for your friends, spouse, family member, even colleague. Thus, next time you will think that it is a waste of time to listen what someone close to you has to say, even if they are mere complaints, think again. If you know you are not a good listener, you should be aware that there are ways to improve this virtue and become an appreciated person.

Good listeners are also good husbands and wives, good parents or family members, good colleagues and, more importantly, good leaders. Yes, even a manager, or someone aspiring to a leadership position, must know how to listen to others. The first thing a good listener does is to pay attention to the person that is talking to them, and won’t finger their mobile phones, won’t look at other people passing by, watch TV or do other activities. So one thing you can do, if you want to become a good listener, is to turn off or put away anything that might distract you. For a couple of moments, you will have to dedicate your attention to the person that is in front of you speaking.

Also, good listeners won’t only pay attention to the words that person is saying, but also will watch the tone of his or her voice, and that person’s body language. The way they behave during a conversation will help you understand better through what they are going through and the way they feel. So when you are actually listening to someone, you don’t just stand there and pretend to be listening, but do your best to understand the person that is talking to you. Another thing you can do is to show interest in the conversation, sympathize and empathize with the person you are listening to. You don’t have to be talking to express these things, as you can do it through short words or body language. Nodding your head, learning towards the person, smiling or showing your concern, a pat on the shoulder or encouragement words can count a lot, showing that you do listen.

A good listener will never interrupt the conversation, or try to chance the subject. It is something rude, and it shows no interest in what the other person is attempting to communicate. Follow the conversation and see when it is appropriate to intervene with what you have to say. Also, always think before giving your answer our opinion, and don’t just throw some words out. And do have in mind that sometimes silence is the best answer, so don’t rush into offering an opinion since it may not be necessary. You are just a good listener so that listening can be more than enough in some instances.

How to be a Good Friend

Having a friend may be the best thing one can have, besides family. A real friend will always accept you for who you are, regardless if you are successful or not, will offer support and a shoulder to cry on, when you need one, and will be happy for your every achievement. But how can you be a good friend? Well, also respecting the previously mentioned aspects and a bit more. To be a good friend, you should try to befriend persons that have a similar vision of life, the same passions and approximately the same way of thinking. You should resonate on the same wavelength if you want your friendship to last in time. Otherwise, no matter how hard you try, you will never be a good friend because spending time with a person that doesn’t share your thoughts and opinions will not be pleasant.

be a good friend

It is important to know that a good friend will always be there when someone close to you needs help. Having a trustworthy friend can be a great thing, especially when you need help or just some encouragement words. You know that you can call that person regardless of the time, at day or night, because you know he or she will do everything in their power to come to your aid. So have this in mind if you want to be a good friend. Friendship is about giving and sharing, not only receiving, so make sure to return these services when your dear friend requires them. After all, this is what friends are for, and if you want to be a reliable and appreciated friend, you should keep them in mind.

Of course, be careful not to be used, as some persons will try to take advantage of you, relying on your kindness and desire to be a good friend. Such persons cannot be called a real friend, and as soon as you feel used, not receiving the same attention in return when you ask for it, you should set some space and limits between you and these persons. Unfortunately, real friends are rather scarce these days, so choose your friends well, and be a good friend only to those who proven worthy of your attention and effort. These are the persons that will offer unlimited support, even in the moments in which others consider you crazy. So you see, being a great friend means respecting the person near you, being there for him or her in moments of hardship and happiness as well, offering a helping hand and just being present in any moment of your friend’s life.

When the friendship between you and someone is real, none of these previously mentioned aspects will not seem hard or a burden. All of them will come natural, out of the desire to help a person you know it deserves only the best because that person will never hesitate to do the same for you. Real friendships will last in time and space, no matter how many years pass and how far away life sets you and your friend apart. A good friend will never forget, regardless what life brings to any of you.

Do You Believe in Reincarnation?

The subject of reincarnation is an intricate one, representing a mere fairy tale for some while it is real belief for others. Still, it is said that each myth must have a seed of truth from which it all started. So what made mankind believe in such a thing. If the man fears of something, it may be God and death. Death represents such a gruesome aspect, mostly because no one came back from there to tell us all how it is. Thus, it may not necessarily be a fear of death, but more of the unknown. So having a concept describing that life is not over when you die, that you will come back in another form, can be rather comforting.

reincarnation of life

Reincarnation is a part of Hinduism and Buddhism, these religions believing in the passing of the soul from one body to another. Of course, there are modern religions as well, like Spiritism and Theosophy, which believe the same thing. Still, even if Buddhism talks about reincarnation, they do not speak of the presence of a soul, or spirit, but more of a consciousness, which passes from one life to another. If we are to take the scientific part of reincarnation, science does talk about the fact that in nature, energy is not lost, but reused. Thus, when someone or something dies, the energy of the body is taken, becoming a part of something else and other processes. Let’s take an animal that dies and decays on the forest floor. Slowly, it will be reabsorbed by the ground, taken from there by roots of the plants, which will grow and produce leaves and fruits, which have seeds, and the story will keep on going in the same manner.

Now, there is the question, do you believe in reincarnation? If you are not a Hindu or Buddhism, it is less likely to believe such things exist, although the subject does stir your interest. After all, there are those extremely weird deja-vu moments, in which you have the impression that you were in that place before, doing the same thing. How can you explain those? When having those deja-vu events, does it meant that we receive a second chance in living our lives, to repair some mistakes we did in the past one? These are questions that lie without answers for the moment, although there are many unexplained phenomena regarding life after death, the energy that leaves a body after death and many other aspects that can hardly be explained by science.

The truth is probably someone in the middle. It is somewhat hard to believe that such a perfectly constructed body, which can sustain itself by transforming food into energy, for the continuity of its internal processes, just stops working at a point. Also, scientists discovered that even after death, and even if the head is separated from the body, for a few seconds, the brain still functions, as energy still lies within its connections. Maybe this energy does manage to manifest itself in some way after our body becomes non-functional. But this is a different story.

How to Be a Good Relationship Partner

Believe it or not, being a good partner in any social relationship follows the same recipe. Of course, details are the ones that set one relationship apart from another, but there are a few primary values that must be respected if you want to be a trustworthy and appreciated partner in a relationship. So whether it is a love relationship, business relationship, or a friendship one, they all value the same qualities. The most important of them all is communication. You can’t have any relationship without proper communication. The rest are respect, diplomacy and understanding. The small details foreseen the existence of romantic feelings, business interests or an excellent collaboration, which will make the difference between the types of relationships a person can have.

good relationship partner

So, as you may have noticed, communication is key in any relationship you are involved in. It is true that in the case of a romantic relationship, feelings, emotions and love come forward and exceed in importance communication. Well, it is a wrongful approach, because if the partners involved in such a relationship won’t notice that they need to communicate, and in a good manner also, their connection will not last too long. Do you know why couples end up in therapy? Because they have communication issues. This is what does all the wrong in a relationship, and that is the fact that one fails to communicate, whether the news is good or bad. It is futile to say that communication is the core of a business relationship, and any other social relationship. Humans are creatures that were designed to communicate, and we developed this skill rather well. Still, there are courses that can teach your how to do this better, and improve your business relationships and collaboration with your partners.

We also talked about the importance of diplomacy, respect and understanding. They all play a part in maintaining a relationship healthy. With the help of diplomacy, you will find a way to discuss with your partner even the most delicate or bothering aspects, without hurting or offending him or her. If you don’t have this skill, it would be wise to start working on it, because it is also needed in any relationship. Respect will help you acknowledge the qualities and opinions of your partner, even if they will not always match yours. Still, you will have to respect yourself first, if you want to be respected by others. And do make the difference between respecting someone and being their servant, just because you think it is rude to say “no”. Understanding may come hand in hand with listening to your partner because otherwise it would be very hard to know what they are trying to communicate. You see, words are not the only way of communication between two people, body languages, gestures, states, they all can say a bit of what the other is trying to transmit. Paying attention to what your partner is saying, as well as his behavior and mood, will help you understand better what he or she is trying to transmit.

Nuances Of Coffee Cup Readings From One Country To Another

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You may think that a coffee cup reading is basic. Someone looks in the coffee ground sediment at the bottom of the cup and tells you what they see. It’s not that easy. You will quickly learn that there are nuances about the coffee cup reading that happens from one country to another.

The readings occur in many countries, particularly in Turkey, Romania, and Middle Eastern countries.

In the Turkish tradition, the coffee reader will interpret the cup in horizontal halves. The bottom half is viewed as the past while the top half is seen as the future. In some Middle Eastern countries, the right represents positive events while the left represents negative.

In Romania, the mug is to be swirled around until the sediment is able to cover most of the inside surface of the coffee mug. However, in some Middle Eastern countries, it is not to be swirled around. Instead, the cup is turned towards the person who is seeking the answers. There are other countries or even regions that require the saucer to be placed over the mug and then shaken, or even turned three times.

There is also the part of the coffee cup reading that involves the person seeking answers (known as the querent) to open their heart. Some readers will ask the person to do this before even drinking the coffee. Others will ask their right thumb to be placed in the bottom of the mug as a way of smearing the sediment and putting their personal thoughts and emotions into the mug to make for a more customized reading.

In Turkey, it also involves looking for various signs and symbols. The Turkish also believe that a person should never try to interpret their own cup. It is also believed that the telling should always start from the cup’s handle and this will vary based upon whether a person is right handed or left handed.

In Romania, a person is asked to be a part of the coffee making process, which includes spooning the froth from the top onto the coffee cup. The coffee grounds should also be drained so that it is not too wet, and this process alone can take up to few minutes.

There are a lot of nuances that you can encounter when getting a coffee cup reading in one country versus another. When you want to have a psychic reading, Deniz is available to provide you with a coffee cup reading that can prove to be very enlightening.

It can be fascinating to see how the different countries read a coffee cup. It can always mean different things and it can also change based upon the country you are in.